Today has been a Godsend! Being laid off just opened a million doors I've been waiting for...amazing how God works!

Thought: Mid-afternoon naps on Sundays are a beautiful thing. Makes you feel like you have endless weekend left.:)

Tyde2Singleness

This Morning a wonderful young chap (sarcasm here) gave me a compliment, and asked if I was single. For the sake of mute conversation I told him i was and he chuckled and replied, "no way, you single? Whats wrong with you-are you crazy? You must be crazy  Cuz ain't no way you should be by yourself"....

Okay getting ready to vent...
What is so wrong with a Godfearing, 24-year old, yes Charlotte's finest female being SINGLE!? And why would there have to be something wrong with me?? Truly this is a stereotype that I (and I'm sure others) do not appreciate. Not that I'm upset at him...he had no chance from the jump poor soul, yet I appreciate him giving me the mattyr for my mynd...but I've noticed plenty for Charlotte men share this sentiment.

So (judging outwardly) I'm supposed to be with someone because I'm fine or look like I have something about myself? Like at 24 is there a law that I should be "booed up" by now and headed to marriage??
OKAY PAUSE>>>
for those who know me..yes I am girl who cried boy, wedding baby, can't wait to be married...yadda yadda
OKAY UNPAUSE>>>>
but those who know me also know that I won't settle fo' NOTHIN'!...Therefore deemed the "heartbreaker" for those who get attached to me while I'm not attached in anyway, shape, form, or stretch of the imagination to them. What about those girls like myself, who keep getting the wrong guy and aren't even in the dating game? And by wrong I mean no chemistry, no spark? YES I appreciate the compliments and those attempting to fit, but I already know 75% of the time the guy is not what I desire, and therefore don't even start the fire. Whats wrong with that?? Isn't that being honest? Isn't that apart of knowing myself and who I am and what I need? Who said I'm supposed to date, date, DATE everyone who says hi or smiles at me to see if "he's it?" Hell naw! How draining...thats giving a piece of my energy to every one of these guys who more than likely won't be it...I don't have energy to waste!!!

And if its being selfish...well call it what it is..but there are too many women who are settling right now for the WRONG ONE...so I have to be the girl who gets the right one...sorry, God said ;)

Because I choose to be single..chose to wait on who God has for me, AND because I choose not to waste time on trivial fly-by-nights or friends with benefits...because I'm confident and quite happy being with just me...LOL and there's something wrong with me?!
Twisted Logic I love it...

And thats not to say that some of us aren't crazy, that women haven't played games and broken hearts, and done terrible things..
But thats not me. I'm single by choice and enjoy it, until my Prince Charming comes and scoops me up in my Royce...ha ha (but seriously, it needs to be a Classic Royce FYI).

All I could do was laugh...while my young gentleman saw the crazy girl who was single, some RIGHT one will see a confident, beautiful female turning heads everywhere she walks, praying that she's single so that he can have a chance.... nice!
Thoughts....

Stay bloggin!:-)

Bhind It All..

So MyndversuzMattyr....
For one I love the letter Y -hense the usage (don't ask me why..I also love the letter J)

Mynd-
My contemplations, my journey to a solution, compromise, or explanation for a status quo. My rationale for what I find troubling, disturbing or lifeless...Thoughts that motivate, captivate, or just illuminate...I grab influence of thought from everywhere, the bus, the lightrail, my Godkids, work, outings..its amazing when you're quiet and LISTENING, what you really hear. Being a communications fanatic, I love noverbal communication. Sometimes what isn't said is most important.

Mattyr-
Webster defines it as 1 a : a subject under consideration ...which is the definition I'll use...
On this blog Mattyr affects the Mynd...
 The people, places, things, ideas that influence my mynd..that's mattyr (and they may mattyr- or not!)

I can't decide which is more important..the things that mynd revolves around, or the end conclusions that my mynd conjures up. And maybe the decision isn't important...but that I thought about it and blogged with the world (or the few people who know about this site!)

Just know that my mynd and mattyr can go to far reaching places...
For example this weekend my Godkids had the most intriguing conversation about how the yogurt clusters tasted in new Raisin Bran Crunch Cereal...I could have cared less and just wanted them to finish eating, but to them the 10 minutes or so of picking up, staring at, taste testing and figuring out those yogurt clusters was most important to them...and of course my mynd went to the simple thoughts of children (which I'll be blogging about of course)..

Lol..in any case,
myndversuzmattyr
my kaleidoscope...your window!

9two5...

SO just how fulfilling is the nine to five...
I mean, as I sit here working and blogging (and looking at my 3 nearest clocks that all have a different time)..I find myself contemplating other ways to invest my time and energies.
What would I be doing if I didn't have a typical day shift, marketing job?

• Baking...I love baking and I have a huge sweet tooth (chocolate is the death of me!)
• Volunteering at a shelter/homeless community...I would love to spend my day aiding those in need, teaching skills to becoming self sufficient again.
• Babysitting- contrary to all the evils of kids..I love babysitting..kids are my passion and I could be around them all day long (lookout for my childcare center coming in 2yrs..of the chains NC!)
• Teaching an aerobic dance class for senior citizens...hey older folks can groove, and they have alot of fun keeping in shape! I see too many teenyboppers shaking 24-7 when they don't need to be...not to mention how retarded the music video "ghetto girl shakum" has become...I'd like to change the scene for a bit.
• Teaching a course for women on how to walk in heels...OKAY pet peeve guys!!! It kills me..women around uptown Charlotte who look fresh to death, and can't walk a lick in these heels. PRACTICE!!! Unless you are Ms. Jay who has been struttin' since birth...you need to practice. There is a skill to making heels sexy..and once you get it you'll look great no matter what size heel ;)
• Travelling...omg can I do some blogging in Spanish..I mean from South America! I have some crazy theories that I would love to travel and research. Not to mention visiting the parents and friends in Cali more often :)
• Did I mention baking...just checking!

I could go on forever, but reality sets in that I am at a 9-5 and need to focus on working. Don't get me wrong, I like what I do and I couldn't ask for crazier, funnier, more caring co-workers. It'll happen one day no doubt..this diva has way to much to give back, and frankly my office chair and desk space can't handle it all. But in the meantime...i'll keep grinding away, and behind the scenes I'll keep dreaming of what my anti 9-5 will look like.

Sky is the Limit!


Tell me..what is your Anti 9-5 (or 8-4 or 3rd shift...what else would you love to do?)