This Morning a wonderful young chap (sarcasm here) gave me a compliment, and asked if I was single. For the sake of mute conversation I told him i was and he chuckled and replied, "no way, you single? Whats wrong with you-are you crazy? You must be crazy Cuz ain't no way you should be by yourself"....
Okay getting ready to vent...
What is so wrong with a Godfearing, 24-year old, yes Charlotte's finest female being SINGLE!? And why would there have to be something wrong with me?? Truly this is a stereotype that I (and I'm sure others) do not appreciate. Not that I'm upset at him...he had no chance from the jump poor soul, yet I appreciate him giving me the mattyr for my mynd...but I've noticed plenty for Charlotte men share this sentiment.
So (judging outwardly) I'm supposed to be with someone because I'm fine or look like I have something about myself? Like at 24 is there a law that I should be "booed up" by now and headed to marriage??
OKAY PAUSE>>>
for those who know me..yes I am girl who cried boy, wedding baby, can't wait to be married...yadda yadda
OKAY UNPAUSE>>>>
but those who know me also know that I won't settle fo' NOTHIN'!...Therefore deemed the "heartbreaker" for those who get attached to me while I'm not attached in anyway, shape, form, or stretch of the imagination to them. What about those girls like myself, who keep getting the wrong guy and aren't even in the dating game? And by wrong I mean no chemistry, no spark? YES I appreciate the compliments and those attempting to fit, but I already know 75% of the time the guy is not what I desire, and therefore don't even start the fire. Whats wrong with that?? Isn't that being honest? Isn't that apart of knowing myself and who I am and what I need? Who said I'm supposed to date, date, DATE everyone who says hi or smiles at me to see if "he's it?" Hell naw! How draining...thats giving a piece of my energy to every one of these guys who more than likely won't be it...I don't have energy to waste!!!
And if its being selfish...well call it what it is..but there are too many women who are settling right now for the WRONG ONE...so I have to be the girl who gets the right one...sorry, God said ;)
Because I choose to be single..chose to wait on who God has for me, AND because I choose not to waste time on trivial fly-by-nights or friends with benefits...because I'm confident and quite happy being with just me...LOL and there's something wrong with me?!
Twisted Logic I love it...
And thats not to say that some of us aren't crazy, that women haven't played games and broken hearts, and done terrible things..
But thats not me. I'm single by choice and enjoy it, until my Prince Charming comes and scoops me up in my Royce...ha ha (but seriously, it needs to be a Classic Royce FYI).
All I could do was laugh...while my young gentleman saw the crazy girl who was single, some RIGHT one will see a confident, beautiful female turning heads everywhere she walks, praying that she's single so that he can have a chance.... nice!
Thoughts....
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So the "Chap" said, "You're Crazy" huh? Well you do understand that he thought he had game; instead of just saying "hello"? Why do the chaps think it takes any more than a simple hello? I'll tell you why: because many, (if not most) of them have never been schooled in "appearance", "approach" nor in the art of effective communication. They literally think that pretty much anything they say will work.
ReplyDeleteUnfavorably for you, my Daughter Tiffany, and all the other young women out there who happen to know who they are and what they deserve; had you simply turned your head and looked the other way, you would have been deemed a stuck-up "B". It is an extremely unfortunate circumstance you all live with everyday.
But as a man who grew up with FIVE (5) older sisters -- sisters who once picked my little 7 year old body off the floor to make the point: "Don't ever hit girls" lol!! (their methods were jacked up, but effective); I say, stand your ground young women, because it almost "NEVER" works when you compromise. Of course there's a way to do that without being called out of your name, and it sounds like you handled yourself quite well in this situation, but settle in your heart that God "IS" able to do exceeding abundantly, above all that you dare to ask or think concerning the right man for the job.
And if things get a little too crazy with the "Chaps" out there; call on the one or two "real men" you have in your life. And if you have none, then give me a call; I keep a different brand of "crazy" just for chaps like that; isn't that right Tiffany?
~Priest